Submission….ohhh…that word. Never been a word that I really have fully understood when it comes to marriage and never I word I like to use around Christopher…sure don’t want to give him any ideas! We have been married for 9 years and dated since we were 16 and by no means has it been an easy road. When I married him I was in love with him but I think I was in love with the idea of marriage. After dating that long marriage was the next step and I think I pestered the “buhjesus”( not really a word but I use it a lot)  out of him until he thought if I ask her to marry me she will be quiet. Six weeks after we got married I got pregnant with our first child so our newlywed days were over pretty quick. Pierce came 5 weeks early so we had a baby within the first 11 months of our newlywed bliss.  

  

I have always loved Christopher but it wasn’t until I saw how much he was in love with God that I became even more in love with him. Don’t get me wrong he still drives me crazy. I think God designed men to do that to their wives. When I think of submission I kind of think of being a servant or doing anything they tell you to when they tell you to do it….Well I have been reading in Ephesians and trying to get a better understanding of what the bible really is trying to say to couples about submission.   Ephesians 5:21-28  Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her  to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,  and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.

After reading this passage I think submission means following my husband’s lead and serving him out of love, the kind of love that Christ has for his church. The kind of love that develops in a relationship with time and trust. My husband is to submit himself to me just like he is to submit himself to the church. Submission means putting God and each other first. Submission is not about doing whatever your husband tells you to do, it is about a mutual love and respect we should have for each other. Reading God’s word makes things in life so much clearer if we simply try to listen to what he is trying to say to us. 

Love and respect is all a couple really wants from each other and deserves from each other.